You're in bed with your man and you're having hot steamy sex. Then it hits to you. "I wonder what he’s thinking about?” Is this sexy? Does he like this? Is he looking at my stretchmarks? My belly rolls, Oh God, my belly rolls!" Then you're spiral with negative thoughts and now you're too anxious and insecure to even enjoy the moment.
It happens and don't worry you're not alone. Almost every other woman experiences the same thing. At one point in our sex lives, it happens to us. However, the question remains. What was he thinking during sex? What do men think about during sex? We're here to help you figure that out and so, let's get right on it.
“I’m having sex!”
Men are thankful anytime they get to have sex. They’re living in the moment and all they can think about most of the time is the fact that they’re having sex. They probably won’t even notice all the insecurities you have that you think he’s thinking about.
“Is she enjoying this?”
Yep, that's right. Men have insecurities too! Just like us, they need to be assured that they're satisfying you. One of their biggest insecurities as if they're big enough down there. They take so much pride when women praise them for being good in bed, staying quite might make them doubt themselves and whether they are performing adequately.
“Can she see up my nose?”
I bet you’ve thought about this too. The truth of the matter is, the mind will go wherever the mind wants to go. It doesn't just happen because you're bored, it happens in the most exciting and thrilling moments of our lives. There is no need to panic though, the mind always brings you back to reality.
“Just a few more minutes and this is all over”
Admit it or not, a lot of men do work when it comes to sex. It's not that we don't want to, it's just that it feels so good when they do it to us. Then again, they feel the same way when we take the lead too. That said, when you're both close to the finishing line, there's something like this unspoken-rule that you have to give it all you've got to make the orgasm explosive before you can both dropdown. They go as deep and fast as they can on that last minute to make everything worthwhile.
“Don’t come yet!!!”
When it's hot, steamy, and wild it can be very hard for men to hold it in. Unlike women, they need a reset and a time to rest before they can go at it again, and so they have to hold that one orgasm in to make sex last longer. They too feel insecure about not lasting long in bed and linking it to not being good in bed. So, their mind goes crazy screaming and focusing on the fact that they should hold it in.
“What is she thinking?”
That’s right Ladies, men ask and think about the same question. The truth of the matter is, you’re probably both thinking the same question while doing it. Don’t let your wandering mind ruin the moment. It can be hard not to be insecure and anxious about the situation but that doesn’t change the fact that you are currently having sex! Live it!
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